Is Divorce Always Wrong?

Some believe that divorce is wrong under any circumstances, with some claiming that God is against it and it is a sin. In an ideal world every marriage would be a happy one and divorce would never be necessary. However, we don’t live in a perfect world and there are times where, for whatever reason, a marriage just isn’t working. There are times when a separation is the best, or even the only, option.



Adultery



It is very difficult for a marriage to survive adultery, especially for it to remain a loving and trusting marriage. If one spouse is unfaithful and his or her partner finds out, then it is often difficult for the victim to forgive. This means the marriage is unlikely to remain a happy one. In these circumstances a divorce may be the best option.



Long-term Affair



If one spouse is having an affair it is likely to seriously damage a relationship. It can be even more damaging than a short-term fling as it is more calculated and over a longer period. It is again likely to mean a lack of trust from the victim with divorce often the inevitable outcome.



Abuse



Where abuse is taking place within a relationship divorce can sometimes be the only option. No-one deserves to be physically or mentally abused and victims in these situations should be encouraged to look for a way out. This is even more the case where children are involved. If children see abuse in the household they may think of it as an example and believe this type of behaviour is acceptable. They may even be in danger of being abused themselves.



Addiction



One spouse being addicted to drugs or alcohol can cause problem within a relationship. It can lead to all manner of problem, including potential abuse. Those who suffer from addiction can receive help and it doesn’t have to spell the end of a marriage, but there are times when there may be no other solution.



It is an Unhappy Marriage



Happiness is the most important thing and there are times when people just aren’t, or are no longer, happy together. Maybe they can’t see eye to eye on the important issue and they are always arguing. This is not a healthy relationship and not an easy way to live. It is also not a healthy environment to bring children up in. Many couples “stay together for the kids”, but an unhappy, confrontational household, is not a good thing for children. If things really can’t be worked out then a separation may be the best option, both for the couple and for any children they may have.



Lack of Love



Sometimes couples simply fall out of love. They become tired of a relationship that no longer has the spark it once did. This is where things become difficult. There may not be one outstanding reason why the marriage cannot last, but neither spouse is as happy as they might be.



Divorce should not be encouraged but that does not mean it is wrong. Every situation is different and so is every couple, but there are circumstances where it is the best thing for all concerned.



Andrew Marshall (c)